I pretty much know what I'm getting every year for Christmas and you know what? That's okay with me. Brian asks for a list every year and I give him one. And really, I give him one that is at least fairly close to our budget, meaning I could end up with everything on it. He gives me a list too, and he's usually even more specific than I am. Like, he figures out what everything costs and then gives me a list that costs exactly what we have budgeted. And that's fine by me.
That said, neither of us are "receiving gifts" love language people. So I like gifts, and I'm not going to turn them down, but I don't feel less loved if Brian buys from a list instead of taking it upon himself to come up with the perfect gift on his own. (Gifts are low enough on each of our love language things that we don't do gifts for Valentines Day, our anniversary, or mother's/father's day.)
Anyway, how do you do it? Do you write a list? Do you prefer to buy from a list, or do you want to come up with something on your own? Are we super boring because we're list people? (I do love me some lists you know.)