Thursday, January 14, 2010

Funny how kids change your perspective

Obviously life changes when you have a child. And when life changes, your perspective changes. You have to adjust to a new "normal." For instance, I never thought I would think of 7 am as sleeping in but these days it DEFINITELY is. But I did not realize how much things would change again with a second child. I guess I figured the big adjustment was from not being a parent to being a parent.

So I was surprised the other day when the family was going out to dinner and even though Brian offered, I wanted to stay at home with the baby because, "it would be a nice break." When Kalena was a newborn I didn't EVER want Brian to leave the house; for the first few weeks it actually made me anxious to be alone with her. Now I find it relaxing to be alone with a newborn? Definitely more relaxing than trying to feed dinner to a toddler in a restaurant. Also, when it was just Kalena, I spent lots of time thinking, "I'll do that when Kalena is sleeping." Kalena NEVER slept enough to get all the things on that list done, but I still thought it ALL THE TIME. Now? I find myself thinking, "well, might as well do it now since I'll never have a minute to myself for the REST OF MY LIFE." I think I'm actually more productive with two kids than I was with one. (Not that I set the bar that high...) Any big perspective changes you had after having kids?


  1. I don't have any, so I can't offer anything deep (not that I ever do).

  2. Adjusting to one was really hard for me! Nora seems like such a breeze! It is funny that when Leah was tiny it seemed like such a pain to leave the house and now when I only have to take Nora somewhere it is no trouble at all.

  3. Phillip and I fought over who would get to do the "baby work" as opposed to the "Jack work." The baby just LAID AROUND. SO EASY.

  4. I think I've had many over the last two years, but none so enlightening as the one I had today -- I only 'had' one baby, but I've got three kids. The husband and the dog count as the other 2. Life's a lot of work nowadays. -Amy

  5. Ditto to your post. Mornings are best, one baby is relaxing, and 7 a.m. is sleeping in like CRAZY!

    Also, it changed my perspective on parents. Turns out, we're all just mucking through as best we can, and we just need to give each other a BREAK and a big ol' pat on the back. Turns out, parenting is tough and there's no instruction manual! Who knew?


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